Before I began actively advocating for LGBTQ equality, I thought I was progressive and supportive of all of my congregants until I had to make the decision of whether or not I would officiate at a same-sex wedding. The first time I was asked, I chose not to risk my credentials and refused the couple. Having to be clear in that action about where I stood led to a conversion experience for me. I was convicted of my sin and the harm that I had caused, and, from then on, I devoted myself to defying and changing our church's discriminatory policies. I believe that clarity about a church's policies is a means of grace for church leaders as well as for those who might be harmed by their actions.