My wife and I attended a non-affirming church that appeared welcoming at first. We didn't know anything about how to research policies and found out after we were involved, had friends in the church, our children had friends and it was painful. Policies that said we couldn't be members. We couldn't even lead a group. We were second class citizens simply for loving each other. That church actually turned out to have very clear policies. Church clarity taught me how to look for these things and we are now in a very safe and affirming church that loves and accepts our entire family, exactly as we are. I am a Church Clarity Advocate because I believe strongly that all people deserve to be in a church that has a community that loves them the way God does, just as He made them.